Understanding What Lies Beneath the Surface
I believe therapy is about more than simply trying to feel better or finding ways to cope.
It is also about understanding why we feel, think and respond in the ways we do, and developing a deeper understanding of ourselves.
I’m interested in the person behind the presentation — what may be happening beneath the anxiety, anger, withdrawal, relationship difficulties, self-criticism or behaviours that bring someone to therapy.
Sometimes the things we struggle with today have roots in earlier experiences. Sometimes they are connected to patterns we have developed over time, relationships, life circumstances, neurodiversity or the ways we have learned to manage difficult emotions.
Understanding these connections can create the possibility for change.
Therapy Should Be Personal
I don't believe there is one therapeutic approach that works for everyone.
My practice is integrative, which means I draw from different therapeutic approaches and adapt my work according to the individual, their needs and what we are exploring together.
Some people may benefit from a more structured and practical approach. Others may need more space to explore emotions, relationships or past experiences. Sometimes we may move between these approaches as therapy develops.
Therapy should be shaped around the person, rather than the person having to fit the therapy.
Understanding Patterns
Many of us develop ways of coping that made sense at some point in our lives.
Perhaps you learned to keep everyone happy, avoid conflict, stay in control, put other people's needs before your own or become highly self-critical.
These patterns can be helpful at one stage of life but may become less helpful over time.
Therapy can provide an opportunity to become curious about these patterns rather than judging them.
We can explore where they may have come from, what they are trying to achieve and whether there are different ways of responding now.
The Therapeutic Relationship
I believe the relationship between therapist and client is an important part of therapy.
For therapy to be helpful, I want you to feel that you can be yourself without having to perform, explain everything perfectly or worry about being judged.
My role is not to tell you what to do or who you should be.
It is to work alongside you with curiosity, compassion and honesty, helping you explore what is happening and consider what you would like to change.
You remain the expert on your own life.
Looking at the Whole Person
People rarely experience difficulties in isolation.
Anxiety may affect relationships.
Stress may affect sleep and emotional regulation.
Low self-worth may influence the choices we make.
Neurodiversity may affect how we experience the world, relationships, work or everyday demands.
For this reason, I try to understand the wider picture rather than focusing only on the difficulty that brought you to therapy.
This may include thoughts and emotions, relationships, past experiences, behaviours, identity, life circumstances and the ways you respond to stress and change.
A Neurodiversity-Informed Approach
Neurodiversity is an important part of my work with both young people and adults.
I have experience supporting people with autism, ADHD and other neurodivergent experiences, including difficulties with emotional regulation and areas where executive functioning may be creating challenges.
My aim is not to make someone less neurodivergent or to fit them into a particular way of functioning.
Instead, therapy can be an opportunity to understand yourself more fully, recognise your strengths and find ways of working with your individual needs.
Ongoing Learning
My approach continues to develop throughout my career.
Alongside my training and experience in psychology, CBT and psychotherapy, I continue to undertake professional development and explore approaches that can deepen my understanding of the people I work with.
My learning has included areas such as Internal Family Systems and Parts Work, Inner Child Work, Schema Therapy, trauma-informed approaches, Cognitive Processing Therapy, emotional regulation and mindfulness, as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment-informed approaches in my work with couples.
I don't see therapy as something where learning ever really stops.
Continuing to learn allows me to reflect on my practice, remain curious and consider different ways of supporting the people I work with.
Sometimes Understanding Is the Beginning of Change
Therapy does not always begin with knowing exactly what needs to change.
Sometimes it begins with curiosity.
With noticing that something isn't working anymore.
With wanting to understand yourself a little better.
And sometimes, understanding what lies beneath the surface is the beginning of finding a different way forward.
You don't have to have all the answers before you begin.
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